Girl Friends

In this increasing busy and uncertain life which seems to run faster than we can cope it is good to know that you can rely on some very few things and people who are always there for (in spite of being spread across the world and divided by hemispheres).

I am talking about my other support system which is equally and sometimes even has been more important than my family. It is increasingly becoming necessary to have another piece/pieces of you with whom you can share your joys and sorrows unabashedly. They are my girl friends.

As a part of my support system apart from mom and sis, I have roughly more than a dozen chosen pieces of me: the women who are there for ‘me’. I call them ‘pieces of me’ because they reflect a lot of my thoughts and actions which make me what I am and have their unique characteristics which make them so great. They understand the reason behind my cribs, my frustrations, we deal with men and their idiosyncrasies, babies and tantrums and even much before that marriage required or not kinda questions. So the range of off-loading varies from a one of day’s blues – bad day at work -bad fight with someone – life threatening crisis, etc. to the many joyous achievements and occasions life puts in.

In order to function sanely, I feel this support is absolutely required and a must. This post is dedicated to all those women without whom life would never be the same as it is right now.

Thanks for being there!

Fast Forward?

Five years ago, just around this time, I desperately prayed to God to forward my life by five years. I am glad he doesn’t do things like that 🙂

I would have missed

  • The instinct that tells you over and over again, ” This is the one, this is the one….”, on and on in my mind
  • The heady feeling of instantly falling in love
  • The heady feeling of being madly in love that could make you do many insane things
  • The lovely courtship days that made them so special because of all the time we had ‘just’ for ourselves and no sundries being a part of it
  • Getting married 🙂
  • Driving around like mad people in the US and more or less covered the East coast and some of the West too
  • Buying our own house
  • Decorating it with all things important and trivial, yet so special in our hearts
  • The birth of our daughter and her growing up
  • Discovering my calling at work
  • Making some great friends on my way
  • Moving to Australia and all that we are going through now….
So, when God makes it really hard to bear, he throws many things to enjoy life too.
Have fun and keep smiling and enjoy the ride.

Complexities

We see complexities in every aspect of our lives and decisions that we need to take seem to be unending. I suppose that is a cross that we all have to bear. But the real difference lies in the way we accept those decisions in our lives. Whether those decisions are made by us left to choose or are forced on us, the end result and the way we shape our lives from there on is entirely in our own hands.

I do not like people who blame someone else for the failures in their lives. Sure you don’t always dedicate your success to others, so why blame at every failure?

The answer is because it is always easier to blame someone else for your failure than own it up for the mess you have created. In most normal circumstances, I believe that there is no real situation which cannot be salvaged or used to our advantage. It is just the perspective and the will to make use of the situation that matters.

I had come across some ‘characters’ who do not own up for what they do and some others who go beyond their limit to help them. It is weird how life plays out things and today I am in a particularly philosophical mood which makes me want to sit and muse about these supposed big things or nothings in life.

Looking at my daughter go around her little needs in a care free manner, it really makes you want to go back to a stage where you didn’t have to bother/worry/care for anything at all. Even now, I want to achieve that carefree existence given some responsibilities and sans most of the complexities. Again a matter of perspective I think. 🙂

One element of complexity in our life comes from our work/money matters and another one stems from the way your closest relations behave with you. I wouldn’t advise anyone to be an altruist nor a selfish, but draw a mid-line. Increasing number of people are drawn to extremities and more so to the later. I see it is a perspective thing for them and also for us to deal with them, but the solution for such a thing is not very clear.

As I mentioned above, this post is neither meant to be preachy or questioning. It is what it is – musing about the complexities involved in our lives.