Orkut – Seemed useful

Orkut was a craze when introduced and one’s presence on it was considered in vogue. These days that glory belongs to Facebook. I have always wondered what use Orkut can ever do for me, except for connecting (temporarily) with long lost friends. Well, I must admit that going with the latest fad I took to it, or rather tried to with quite a bit of enthusiasm. May be I have aged and my priorities differ and I only check my profile very rarely. In fact I still find it easier than Facebook, where I did create an account and successfully forgot the password. For some reason when I try and reset it, I never get the updated one, so I just let the whole thing fade.

Coming to Orkut, one thing is for sure, I got to see what kind of person my hubs was before we even met and yes, it can help a lot in knowing the general bent of an individual. Apart from that, I find most of the social networking sites – esp Orkut a real waste of time. Linkedin might differ a little, but it yet to catch up and will take time to be recognised as a reliable recruitment reference site.

My cousin is leaving for the US and she informed me that she managed to get in touch with her prospective roomies through Orkut. She managed to fix up everything through Orkut links, emails and some local references. Six years back, when my close friend left in pusuit of happyness she only had her senior to rely on and that was the case with many people before her. For the second time in my life, I found Orkut being useful (to someone, at least) as a social networking site. But once again, it caters primarily to students and I doubt – having now found my partner – if it can ever be useful to me in a better manner than congratulating friends upon weddings, engagements, babies, birthdays etc.

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Is Sex Everything in a Relationship?

Recently, I happened to watch this movie called – The Mirror Has Two Faces: directed by Barbara Streisand and also, playing the lead with Jeff Bridges. The crux of the story revolves around two middle-aged people who have not been lucky with relationships in the past. Both are professors at Columbia University – the male, mathematics professor is described as ‘Attractive & Boring‘ where as the lady who is the literature professor is said to be ‘Unattractive & Witty‘. Thus with a paper ad starts their arranged courtship where both like each other’s company and their mutual respect and admiration grows with time.

It is interesting to note that the couple does get married with minimal inclination or want for a sexual life. Gregory has come to believe that sex has nothing to do with relationships and that was one of the primary reasons why his past relationships failed. Rose, married Gregory because she liked him. After all these years of rejection from various supposed loves, she felt that marrying someone she likes, even without love would be fine. Their life together is more like two roommates or friends living together. But human mind/heart wants more from life and Rose is no different – she wants more from her marriage. Frustration reigns supreme and when Gregory goes on a summer teaching trip, Rose tries one last ditch attempt to save her marriage. She decides to get into shape and by the time Gregory returns Rose is at her attractive best and tries to woo Gregory.

Consummate means to complete and I feel this word acquires an all new meaning when used with marriage. Personally, I feel that a life to be led without love is totally meaningless. I for one could never imagine committing myself to someone I had no love or respect or attraction. Yes, attraction is also very important. Compatibility comes from understanding each other better and knowing what your partner needs. But this want to know more about this one person, around whom your life revolves, can only come from love. Physical attraction, I feel helps a lot to make this bond even stronger.

Attraction may not be total and complete at the outset, just like Rose and Gregory’s case, but with time anything is possible. Consummating a marriage is nature’s way of making the lovely bond between a couple more meaningful. Sex is definitely not the only thing in a marriage or a relationship, but it helps a great deal in making one’s relationship a whole lot richer and worthy of your precious time to be spent on that one person. I would want to add that it is not just sex, but sense of touch and belonging is also a part of this game. So, what happened to Rose and Gregory, you might want to watch the movie, it’s not bad at all and very well dealt theme too. But, if you have read this post, am sure you can guess the ending by now.

So, if you are in a relationship, make the most of it – in all ways.

Bamboo Update

The bamboo plant that we acquired has proved to be quite a task to handle. There are a lot of things about this lovely plant. The nature of bamboo is to grow in undergrowths with hardly any light penetrating from the tall trees all around. We felt that keeping the bamboo under shade would be fine, but then it still seemed to be too much light for it. Finally found a very dark corner and this seems to be suiting it fine.

Another important aspect with bamboo is that one should water it – daily, but with soft water. No hard water or bore water for this dainty lady. This was one main reason for loosing many of the shoots.

It is a high maintanence, but we have managed to keep it going for now. Still sometimes some shoots just start to dry and then rot. One has no alternative but to remove those shoots and it really hurts. If any of you have any better handling tricks with bamboo, please let me know. 🙂

Bamboos are quirky plants and needs loads of love, talking and attention. We still love them 🙂