There always seem to be a thousand and one things to be done at any given time. To prioritize and most importantly to have a clarity on what exactly should be done is I think most important.
Clarity in thought, clarity in action is one seemingly simple but elusive thing, just like common sense which is unfortunately is not so common. When I talk about clarity here, I am talking about the clarity in career, the clarity to choose a life-partner or if one delves deeper then the clarity to have a life-partner or not and so on. These are few but pertinent things that do seem to affect the majority of the humanity. More often than not, one is always in the lack of such clarity. It is a case of sheer happiness and pleasure to meet someone who knows what he/she wants; how would they want their life to be and what does one foresee life to be. Whether they are able to execute their plans and achieve them is a totally different story, but at least there is the reasoning that they had an idea and tried.
Boredom often causes disillusionment and this has been something I have been hearing a lot from many of my friends and acquaintances whom I have met in the recent past. I must admit that having been plagued with a certain amount of boredom myself, with respect to my career I have taken up this so called holiday for myself from work. I realized I needed sometime to think about what I like, what am I good at and what would I really want to do with my life and get some clarity. Yes, I do need some too.
I have always been a firm believer of the fact that a crux of a person should never change but the outer package must freshen itself on a constant basis to keep boredom at bay. This wrapper change keeps relationships in tact and most importantly keeps the person within you also happy. After all, we are doing all this for our own happiness. Altruism is something I don’t really believe in. I have had an interesting conversation with a friend of mine on this and upon retrospection I have no choice but to concur with her. She said that if one tries to please someone else or is doing something for the other person’s happiness then in turn that person is doing it for their own self. Obviously, if you see your loved one happy, you know you are going to be happy.
What I intend to say or rather post a question is that when one realizes that he/she is doing something that bores one and you don’t have an idea as to what to do next or are looking for the clarity to know what you could do best, how and where do you start looking? Any answers/clues, most welcome.
November 13, 2007 at 1:37 AM
Very interesting! That is why people in these western countries have much more boredom than in India. Imagine a weekend here, people call several famlies, and keep chatting. when you are conversing with a friend you will panic the moment you get bored with them. Then you go blank, your friend is more confused than bored, and it is like beating a dead snake!Then you wait wait wait several hours till they leave right?
In India the whole aura is constant touch of non boredom. You do not need a friend there, just look at the sourroundings, listen to the bustling traffic, drink a hot cup of coffe and watch the traffic, you are all set!
I think speaking very very few words, and listening to several is the key to kill boredomness.when you are listening to your friend, energize your thoughts to enjoyment in acceptance and reciprocation in anticipation and awe at her or his words and appreciate their experiance. You will be very happy that way. The moment you keep talking,,,… you lost track of the whole scenerio and control over that.
With relatives it is tricky. with husband, one serene look speaks a thousand words.It gets weaker by the months. Hope this helps.
If that is of any concession, I am in the exact business of Boredom and doing a PhD on this!!
Did find a few answers so far.
God bless